Another great article, Esther -- and I find your points to be spot on!

Purely as an FYI, in addition to Sides A and B, there exists Sides Y and X. Side Y is basically the same as Side B -- except Side Y refuses to call themselves "gay" and Side B is free to call themselves "gay."

The annual Revoice conference now eschews the "same-sex attraction" label (i.e., Side Y's position) and is confident to use instead such terms as gay, queer, and LGBTQ.

Hope that helps a bit.