Hi Trevor. Thanks so much for reading my article. Even more, thank you for your very helpful and rounded thoughts about divorce for gay men in a mixed orientation marriage (MOM). You bring out so many wonderful points! Many gay husbands in a MOM have felt very trapped between two wrongs: not wanting to "disappoint" God by getting a divorce -- while not wanting to be inauthentic. Many, many men choose divorce. I will never judge them and applaud their courage and wish them only the very best in their future.

As for me, I am glad I stayed married for 41 years until my wife died. Silly as it may sound, I felt good that I had "lived up to my promise." Certainly, though, I am not encouraging all gay husbands in a MOM to do as I did. I believe the Holy Spirit can influence Believers into the best choice -- much better than I can.

Blessings to you, Trevor!